Integrative Body Psychotherapy Sample Session

By Keith Renninson I first met Jim Bowen in 1992 when a friend of mine and I were preparing to go trekking in Nepal. Jim was the brother of her boyfriend. Back then I knew that he was in to personal growth and lived near Boulder. The reputation of Boulder jaded my thinking when I… Read More »

Communication After a Time Out: Five Steps for “I Messages” to Repair and Fight Fairly Through Relationship Counseling

Good communication is necessary to repair when a fight has escalated and a time-out has been called.  When you come back together later to talk, “I” messages are an effective means to communicate because they maintain a respectful attitude towards your partner while you get to say how it is for you. Use an “I”… Read More »

Increase Sexual Intimacy Through Relationship Counseling: Three Tips for Passionate Monogamy

Tip One: Learn How to Get Through Boredom and the Normal Marital Knot Boredom happens, as it’s the primary fear of monogamy, a lack of newness. So don’t ignore it or let it get swept under the rug. Also, see boredom as normal feedback in your relationship, instead of believing sex is failing. It only… Read More »

Couples Communication: Tips on How to Take a Time Out, Calm a Heated Argument, and Increase Sexual Intimacy Later!

Relationships are not easy all the time. When you live with a person every day emotions can run hot. When we’re in such a hot emotional state and in an argument with our partner, it’s not so much fun. It’s hard to have a reasonable, calm, understanding, productive discussion under these emotional conditions. You will… Read More »

Happy Couples Secret Weapon: After a Big Fight, Gottman’s Repair Attempts for Increased Communication and Relationship Intimacy

John and Susan felt hopeless after their latest argument. As is usual, they went to their separate corners in the house to simmer down and get away from each other. When they started talking again, it wasn’t good, just short, cryptic words, not a very good connection. Both of them were hurting from ANOTHER big… Read More »