Three Tips How Marriage Counseling Can Help With Sexual Intimacy, When Cancer Symptoms and Cancer Treatments Affect Your Relationship.

Talk with a marriage counselor when overwhelming issues with cancer and intimacy surface. There are three key approaches to remember when dealing with sex and cancer. First, communicate with your partner. Secondly, adjust as necessary. Third, experiment with other forms of intimacy.

It’s important to listen to each other’s point of view, and your partner’s feelings, without being dismissive, when cancer affects intimacy. Get reacquainted if there’s been disconnection, as emotional closeness and companionship are important. This can rebuild sexual intimacy. Start out with simple cuddling, kissing, and touching, which can be relaxing together. There may be physical and emotional changes, and you may feel anxious about being sexual after cancer treatment. Talk openly in relationship counseling about your feelings so that you understand each other’s needs and preferences.

Secondly, make adjustments when dealing with cancer and intimacy. Avoid saying things like “You’re going to be great.” Instead, try statements like “Even though I can’t fix it, I am here for you.” After cancer treatment, some sexual positions may not feel good. Try to be there for your partner by being a flexible guide, and explore your expectations together.

Lastly, new forms of intimacy can help you explore your expectations. Focus on the sensual aspects with your partner instead of the sexual. Learn in relationship counseling new kinds of sexual contact in addition to hearing about new positions that could make for more comfort and more pleasure. Remember that products like vaginal moisturizer or lubricants may be needed. Building intimacy can be full or growth and health for both of you!

Healthy intimacy can include sex, but remind your self that sex is only part of a relationship. Communication is necessary, and when you feel anxious about it, learn tools to deal with anxiety. Adjustments to deal with worry about cancer and your sex life can lead to more fun, and better sex! New kinds of intimacy uncover energy to be more real and authentic as your grow closer.


Jim Bowen MA LPC has been assisting individuals and couples since 1992, with offices in Boulder and Denver. Contact Jim with email or call him at 303-534-8717. Why not call for a free consultation?